Ok, my thrill-seeking behavior is on the rise. I think it’s a good thing.

Last night when I contacted the below-mentioned person about ‘hanging out’ he let me know that he was going to take it easy for the rest of the night. i.e. We weren’t going to see each other again until January when I return. So the end appeared to be an awesome non-date. I was bummed that I hadn’t hooked up with him, and that I hadn’t had a chance to brave the do-you-want-me? dance.

But it turns out this wasn’t the actual end. This guy sent me a friendly text during the day about an ongoing joke. Then, midnight, he texts me the usual “Is anything going on tonight” message he’s been sending most nights. (He likes to start and end the night late). I evade the question, because I leave at 5am the next morning and I’m not about to go anywhere. When this becomes clear, he sends a long goodbye text.

At this point, I’m furiously consulting with my cousin about how to respond. I want to end with an invitation to continue the friendship, but I don’t want to call it a friendship… So I jokingly try out “When I’m back in January let’s go dancing again and have sex lol!”

I expect my cousin to veto this immediately, and really want her to stop me, but instead she shrugs. “Why not?”

She’s right. I have nothing to lose. I’ve only known the guy a few weeks, I can survive without his friendship if he gets spooked. So I send the message.

“Ok, it’s gone.”

“You sent it?!” My cousin is shocked and I realize what I’ve done as the MESSAGE 65 SENT icon pops onto my screen. Ohnoohnohonohonohonohonohonohonoh!

I turn my phone on silent and give it to her. “I never should have sent that!”

Eight minutes pass before the screen lights up and my cousin’s eyebrows go all sorts of funny shapes. “What!? It’s bad, right?”

She reads it out to me, “Haha wow…maybe lol”

I feel a little better, and as I think about it, I get more comfortable.

My thoughts string out something like this…He could have shut me down and he chose not to. Maybe this is him just letting me off easy, in which case he will never respond in January, or maybe this is him realizing that I had different intentions than he thought. At least he knows where my head’s at!

So, does that count as sexting?

Annik

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